I bet you thought the F word in this post was going to be formula, nope, it's feeding. Believe me that alone is enough of a trigger word. There is nothing that I have personally encountered this is a more polarizing subject for mothers than how you feed your baby.
There is not enough space to launch into breast-feeding's science, too small trials, non-sibling variables, not accounting for socioeconomic status, discounting crucial variables such as maternal IQ, maternal prenatal and postnatal care etc. Or enough space to discuss how breastfeeding has evolved as a moral imperative. Or conversely to discuss the past shady practices of formula companies that gave them their demonized status.
What I want to say is, let's call a truce! Let's recognize that mom's are doing their best. If you choose to breastfeed, awesome, anywhere, anytime ladies, feed your babies. As a Postpartum Doula, I am trained and excited to help assist and support you. If you are bottle feeding out of need or choice, cool, whip your bottles out without shame. As a Postpartum Doula, I have lots of great information on safe practices when formula feeding.
Making a specific feeding choice doesn't make you a better mother, it just means a particular method has been successful for you and your baby. Be kind, we always have far more in common than not. The following are two great feeding resources.